As I continue to read about Trans-racial adoption I am struck by just how much thought needs to go into being their family. As a mom I think about T's sensitivity, activeness, and love for people. For D I think of his need to explain himself, be heard, and attention to family. With this new baby there will be the need to focus on attachment, answering questions, and keeping as much of their culture as possible. I am excited to meet that challenge!!!
Off to write a "Dear Birthparent" letter... wish us luck. :0)
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Dance parties are good for the soul...
I have a lot of thoughts in this blog...just a warning to hang on around the curves :0)
No matter what I'm feeling when my children ask me to dance, the whole world stops. I love to twist, spin, and make up silly dances together. Dancing has always been a part of me (I danced for 15 years), and it's a part of my children, Music and dance sooth both of my children. Sometimes I forget about this simple joy.
We accomplished another step closer to our baby today. We received word that we are approved for the Georgia agency!! Yay!! With the completion of the home study we can begin to have our profile shown. I love when there are things to do to prepare for the adoption, it makes the waiting easier.
As I read blogs and see people receive their baby I ache for our baby. We still have a long journey ,I keep the birth family and the baby meant for our family in my prayers every night. I pray for the children of the world to feel the love of Jesus through the parents that raise them.
I've been struggling a little with our choice to adopt domestically. Not on the choice but whether we are doing enough to help orphans. I hear stories and read about the need for children across oceans. Their need to feel the love of someone tucking them in at night, or reading them a bed time story, or respecting their voice, or to give them proper medical care, food and a blanket. I pray...asking God to show me where we can be of service...
Then after praying about it I found this blog:
No matter what I'm feeling when my children ask me to dance, the whole world stops. I love to twist, spin, and make up silly dances together. Dancing has always been a part of me (I danced for 15 years), and it's a part of my children, Music and dance sooth both of my children. Sometimes I forget about this simple joy.
We accomplished another step closer to our baby today. We received word that we are approved for the Georgia agency!! Yay!! With the completion of the home study we can begin to have our profile shown. I love when there are things to do to prepare for the adoption, it makes the waiting easier.
As I read blogs and see people receive their baby I ache for our baby. We still have a long journey ,I keep the birth family and the baby meant for our family in my prayers every night. I pray for the children of the world to feel the love of Jesus through the parents that raise them.
I've been struggling a little with our choice to adopt domestically. Not on the choice but whether we are doing enough to help orphans. I hear stories and read about the need for children across oceans. Their need to feel the love of someone tucking them in at night, or reading them a bed time story, or respecting their voice, or to give them proper medical care, food and a blanket. I pray...asking God to show me where we can be of service...
Then after praying about it I found this blog:
http://joiningthejourney.blogspot.com/2010/10/domestic-adoptionorphan-or-not.html
I know God has a plan and that this is the road for our family. I am thankful for so much and today especially for dance parties :0).
I know God has a plan and that this is the road for our family. I am thankful for so much and today especially for dance parties :0).
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Turning 5!
Our baby turned five today!! He has grown into his big personality.
One thing I love about birthday days is that the day celebrates them. I heard T say many times today...ok D because it's your birthday you can go first. I love the respect, if only it would last. But tomorrow morning all will go back to normal. Decorations will be down, breakfast will return to normal, and the brother love will cease to exist (at least outwardly).
D said after blowing out his birthday candles..."mommy I wished for the best birthday ever, and this was it!" AHHHHHH!
One thing I love about birthday days is that the day celebrates them. I heard T say many times today...ok D because it's your birthday you can go first. I love the respect, if only it would last. But tomorrow morning all will go back to normal. Decorations will be down, breakfast will return to normal, and the brother love will cease to exist (at least outwardly).
D said after blowing out his birthday candles..."mommy I wished for the best birthday ever, and this was it!" AHHHHHH!
Monday, April 11, 2011
What to say?
What to talk about...? Normally when I write I know exactly what I want to talk about. Tonight, not so much. I could talk about my 2 fabulous and busy boys. Who have said when the baby comes they could have all of their OLD stuff...(sweet huh?!)
Or my great, loving, strong, fabulous husband (I'll stop before it gets tooo mushy :o)
or about the precious baby we wait for God to reveal to us....
but my mind leads to the what if's....
What if the home study isn't approved?
What if no one picks us?
What if the birth parents decided not to go through with the adoption?
What if we are hurt?
What if , what if , what if??????
I push those "What if's" aside each day knowing that what is God's plan will surely come. I am not unaware of the struggles we might face (as I'm reminded by the stories people share with me about their friends struggles to adopt), but I am confident in God's love and grace to see us through. I don't want to dwell on the hard part so I continue to plan (that's my coping strategy). So...
S goes for his visit this week with the Social Worker, then we schedule the BIG home visit!! I better get cleaning and organizing now :O) I'm am so excited for that day. It means all of our part is done and we move on to the approval processes, the profile making, and the waiting...but that's for another story.
I push those "What if's" aside each day knowing that what is God's plan will surely come. I am not unaware of the struggles we might face (as I'm reminded by the stories people share with me about their friends struggles to adopt), but I am confident in God's love and grace to see us through. I don't want to dwell on the hard part so I continue to plan (that's my coping strategy). So...
S goes for his visit this week with the Social Worker, then we schedule the BIG home visit!! I better get cleaning and organizing now :O) I'm am so excited for that day. It means all of our part is done and we move on to the approval processes, the profile making, and the waiting...but that's for another story.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
It's nights like these...
Family game nights are the best. We started the night off with a beach volley ball game in the house, dinner together, a walk with the dog, followed by a game of Chutes and Ladders and capped it all off with finishing a puzzle together. I love these nights when everyone seem to be on the same page and fun and family are the name of the game.
These nights revive me, and remind me it's all worth it (along with friends who say the same thing ;o). The other day I hit my first overwhelmed and doubtful day. I do not waiver on the decision to begin this process just on my ability to get all the ducks in a row that are needed to accomplish this dream. Again my husband is the rock who says...it is possible, it will get done, and we can do this. Through God all things are possible.
We have decided to go with an agency in Georgia as our placing agency. The night we were going through their application (yes, another application...this process just might cure me of my fondness of paperwork) I began to wonder if we really could do this. This agency has a waiting period once approved of two weeks to twelve months. I love the idea of our baby coming home in weeks...my heart swells with excitement of this possibility. My brain on the other hand says how could this possibly work, there is time off to worry about, money and supplies to pull together, and a crib that needs to be assembled (and S & I do not work well together when trying to assemble)...then I hear the sound advice of my husband who says this will work. And with nights like these I believe him!!
These nights revive me, and remind me it's all worth it (along with friends who say the same thing ;o). The other day I hit my first overwhelmed and doubtful day. I do not waiver on the decision to begin this process just on my ability to get all the ducks in a row that are needed to accomplish this dream. Again my husband is the rock who says...it is possible, it will get done, and we can do this. Through God all things are possible.
We have decided to go with an agency in Georgia as our placing agency. The night we were going through their application (yes, another application...this process just might cure me of my fondness of paperwork) I began to wonder if we really could do this. This agency has a waiting period once approved of two weeks to twelve months. I love the idea of our baby coming home in weeks...my heart swells with excitement of this possibility. My brain on the other hand says how could this possibly work, there is time off to worry about, money and supplies to pull together, and a crib that needs to be assembled (and S & I do not work well together when trying to assemble)...then I hear the sound advice of my husband who says this will work. And with nights like these I believe him!!
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